Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Bounce House=Broken Arm for Brandon-Yes Brandon!

I can not believe the day we had- we are back from the Dr after the school called and said Brandon fell in the bounce house-really?!!! He has 3 medical excuses to not do PE and Recess in his records on file at the school and they let him go in a bounce house. He fell on his arm trying not to hurt his hip and broke the bone in his upper arm. 

We have an appointment on Thursday at 8:15am but until then it is in a sling.  Where it is broken they usually don't cast and our Dr. said they used to wrap it but they have found that is heals usually just being in a sling-so that is what he has at this point. We won't know if they will do anything else till Thursday. Thankfully since it is the bone in his upper arm he is ok pain wise with just Motrin if he doesn't move it much.   

I am so sad and angry and I know it shows in this post and I am trying not to be-I hope if I write about it now that when I go to the school in the morning that I will only reflect Christ.  I really want that-I am trying not to feel this way the the human, mama bear side of me is coming out and I am in shock and disbelief that they allowed this and someone really dropped the ball on this and I am really struggling with being kind, sweet, compassionate and understanding.

I need prayer for not only having to go into the school tomorrow to inform them that it is broken and see what they plan on doing about it but that Brandon is ok and that there isn't something wrong with his bones.  He has broken two other bones, his ankle and his wrist at 10 months and two years, both from falling on cement and commons falls and breaks but now with this break and the hip break (they say that was caused by the cysts) that is 4 in almost 7 years-he will turn 7 in August.  I keep going back and forth in my head-Satan is having a field day with all of this.

 I am worried something is wrong with him. But the only thing that makes me think  maybe not, is we have gone 5 years since he broke his arm so surely if it was some bone issue he would be breaking things all the time and they wouldn't be healing. 

Our Dr told us today that it isn't a stupid question to ask the Orthopedic Dr on Thursday but he has seen the same kids 4 and 5 times in one year with broken bones and that the Ortho Dr's have said it was normal-so I will ask but I am praying it is nothing more than accidents.  
Also the Ortho Dr at Cooks surely would have thought something was wrong with his bones if they would have seemed brittle or something when she was in there operating on them and she didn't say she was worried about anything. I don't know-so I am of course asking that he would be ok and that he has just been really unfortunate in having this all happen and that his arm would heal quickly-the only thing he could do this summer is swim and now we can't do that either.  I am sad and hurting for him-I think he doesn't get why him?  Not that we should ever really question that-cause why not us?  It is just hard to understand at 6.

Please just pray I will be a light and I will reflect Christ tomorrow at the school-I am not angry at anyone really- just really upset at the situation and that this was allowed to happen-it just should not have happened with those excuses on file. I expected when I sent him back to school that he would be protected and I didn't have to sit around worried about what might happen-he was out for 3 weeks-the school knew that and the if all the teachers at the bounce house didn't know that someone should have told them and it shouldn't have happened.  
I want to reflect Christ when I go-my human side is mad and sad and hurting for my little boy-I expected to follow the rules and they didn't-but I don't want to go there mad, sad and angry-I want to be a witness-please pray for me. Thank you for being so willing to always come along side us and cover us in prayer.
I have a feeling I might be asking a lot of that from you all for the next 18 years at least.
The last week with the car being broken into and now this-I am feeling a little defeated. I will trust in the Lord with all my heart and learn not on my own understanding.
Praising Him on this Pathway-


croleyc69 said...

I'm praying for all of you.


Barbie said...

Jill, I am so very sorry. I am praying for you and Brandon. Do not allow the enemy to torment you. Rest in HIS love and in HIS peace!

cooperkelly4 said...

Oh Jillllll! {hugs}
Praying for you and your Mama Bear's heart. I totally get it and would be asking for prayers myself! Praying for you and quick healing for Brandon. As I was reading your post, I was thinking that is a lot of "down" time for Brandon...maybe a really good book series or something God/character focused. Our entire family LOVES the Little House books even though they are about girls. We read them 2 summers ago (so Nate was 7) and he loved them too. Praying for wisdom, grace, and creativity for your summer. Kelly

JillAileenJones said...

Thank you all-I needed the prayers-still do. The meeting went fine expect no one is stepping up to take the blame or responsibility for what happened and there is just no excuse for this. If it were just that he was in the bounce house and broke his arm that would be different the problem is that he had 4 excuses medical excuses saying he wasn't to participate in PE or Recess activities and they let him go into a bounce house!
The bounce house people say the school signs off on it all and they are basically saying were sorry but I don't know that we can do anything about this.
I don't know what is going to happen and where this will go but it shouldn't be happening-the bottom line is he shouldn't have been in there.
Just trying to stay calm to get my final answer from the school but I am not backing down. The bad part is that it is the end of school today and so they won't be around which will make things harder.
It is a mess.
Thanks for your prayers.
Kelly-we just read the whole Little House series with our daughter-we own it all-he might like it too-they are so educational-my husband said he couldn't believe how much he didn't know about it all till he read them with her-we own the whole DVD collection too which we didn't let her see until she read the books-I love that series it is wonderful-we have the Magic Tree house books too and he is reading better that he might enjoy those too.
Thanks again for all your love, support and prayers.

Janette@Janette's Sage said...

So, so sorry...know that feeling of enough is enough, but than that feeling of "why not us".
Kick the enemy in the teeth by putting on praise music...use your talented voice to sing praises at the top of your lungs, dance around the house...let your joy over come the darkness.
Blessings tomorrow, so sorry, will be praying,

N said...

I have been a lurker, I found your blog from the link Lynette Kraft gave.

I am so sorry that this has happened to Brandon, and I hope he heals quickly.

I broke my arm, right below the shoulder when I was 6. I actually did great pain wise, I required ice, and was uncomfortable for the first 24-48 hours but never took any meds or required anything special.

We have learned as I've grown up that I have a high pain tolerance, but as I had two more breaks in the next year and a half we also learned that the first couple days were the hardest for me, and I pray that this will be the case for Brandon as well, that he will be back to normal within a week or so.

With this being said, there is a very good chance of Brandon reinjuring it. Because kids heal so quicly, and are just wired to play as soon as the pain stops, it can be a whole nother battle trying to let things completely heal.

I tried to play on the monkey bars one handed about a week and a half after the first break. Even the third time I broke my arm I was trying to play before it was all the way healed. I'm not sure what can be done about this, as I was repeatedly told not to, and even told I may need surgery if I rebreak it, but at that age I didn't understand. Brandon will, because he just had surgery, but I just want to warn you that it is VERY hard at that age to miss out on playing.

In regards to brittle bone syndrome, or other syndromes I would not worry too much. I know this is hard, but due to my breaks I had this concern in the back of my mind for quite some time, before finally volunteering for a bone density clinical trial. It was not worth all that worrying, and now I feel ridiculous for worrying myself for so long.

It sounds to me as if he went the first few years fracture free, which is a great sign. If he does have it it would be to a very minor degree. I actually know a boy with mild OI, and the only effect it seems to have had on him is that rather than playing football he is a swimmer, so he does not have contact with other athletes. Also, my ex-boyfriend once got mad and punched him in the shoulder, which resulted in my ex breaking his own finger. So, I hope you can keep from worrying, but don't be afraid to ask, so that you don't have to worry, as I know it is hard for you not to.

Sorry this is so long, you and Brandon and the rest of the family are in my prayers.

Janet said...

I am praying for you all.

I love your honesty and your posts. I am learning from you. I am happy to be on theis journey with you.

Hang in there. You are a great mom and your instincts shine through. If God brings you to it, He will bring your through it.


Janet Cowan